God’s wisdom is truth that keeps, defends, protects, and guards us. It will give us confident quiet trust without fear or dread of evil. Apply all your powers to the quest of it.

This is my comfort and consolation in my affliction: that Your word has revived me and given me life.
   Psalm 119:50

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Hope and Assurance

This website was created for those acquainted with mental illness and in need of hope and assurance.

Question of the Month

My Dad is a critical person and his words have hurt me so many times. I know his attitude toward me has had an influence on my depression and personality. What can I do to help myself get over the things he has said?

Oh! the power of words! They can bind and they can loose. They can give life and healing or they can destroy and cause death. They can soothe like a balm and be sweet as honey or bitter as poison and sharp as a two-edged sword. They can be forgotten in a day or their echoes can reverberate throughout our being for a lifetime.

The words of our parents, like a tap root, goes down deep into our being. It can bring forth development that exhibits ourdivine uniqueness and beauty or we can feel so compelled to fulfill the expectations and assertions of others that our growth becomes twisted and misshapen and we end up not knowing the person God intended us to be.

The words from our past are very much alive today. They help form our thoughts and feed our emotions. They’ve tinted and etched the window we look through to view the world, our self, and other people. Our behavior is a direct reflection of the beliefs they’ve instilled. Our physical, mental, and spiritual beings bend, shape, and mold themselves to support, reflect, and carry out these ruling convictions that continually instruct and direct our health or disease.

We cannot change what other people have said to us but we can choose what we say to ourselves and what we allow to enter our minds through our ears and eyes. It is so very, very important to continually fill ourselves with words and pictures of encouragement, hope, faith, inspiration, and healing. We must refuse entrance to all that encourages fear, doubt, condemnation, and confusion. What we permit to come in our mind is what will come out in our physical, mental, and spiritual health.

You are still the hurting child. When you slow your innermost thoughts down, you may hear yourself saying the same things your father said years ago. Let yourself cry for the little girl that knew so much undeserved hurt no matter how hard she tried. Take her in your arms and speak kindness, affirmation, and love to her. Give her what she needed so badly and never found. Hold her tightly and let her cry for all the painful years gone by that brought no change. You are now responsible for that little girl and who she becomes. Give your consent for her to be all she ever wanted to be and allow no one to ever take her joy, happiness, and enthusiasm away again. Let that little girl live in freedom to be the beautiful and yes, perfect child that God had in mind when He put you together in your mother’s womb.

Contact

I welcome your comments and suggestions about this website. If you have a question that you would like addressed, please let me hear from you.

My email address is carolyn@hopeandassurance.com.